Revelation For Strong Men, Single Men and Married Men: How can I make her submit to me?
Many men want a woman to submit, but forget so many things the Lord displayed in his own actions and words of how a man should think about this topic. So many read one scripture and then are treating women worse then God himself does or told men to do. I see a pattern in relationships and this is a pattern I keep seeing among men who don’t understand submission God’s way. Submission is a woman’s choice, not something forced or told to do. This is her command from God personally and she only answers to God when she doesn’t, same as men will have to answer to God when you do not love her like Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her or are harsh with her. Let’s also not forget the bible say’s submit to one another, love one another and serve one another. So many are abusing what God made clear for their own gain, so I hope this clears up confusion.
If your a husband going through struggles with your wife and don’t know how to love her. First, always go to God for help as the head. He alone can change her heart if your trying and doing your part. Remember, your prayers are hindered if you are harsh with her.
Sometimes it’s a simple thing like consistency. Women feel most loved/safe with consistency in area’s they need to trust. Try to be as consistent as you can and show up, be patient, kind or a man of your word consistently – the best you can for her needs above your own. This is serving one another. This should be your focus and a woman of God will also follow that lead and your example.
Remember your the leader for a reason and only Christ is the head. To lead like Christ and not to control what only God can control through prayers. Changes may not happen right away if there is brokenness between you both, but give it time to work. If she is never going to change, then God will remove her to not hinder you, but let God be the judge of this. He knows the true heart.
Trust takes time. For a flower to grow out of darkness, takes time, caring (watering) and sunlight (positive warm love like Christ). It’s consistent watering and sunlight for it to grow into a beautiful flower for you. The flower (woman) will grow with what gives it the most consistent care and warmth. This is what Christ does for us.
Men submit too: “Submit to one another”…”love one another”…and “Serve One Another” the bible says.
The more she see’s you show up with her needs and God see’s you doing it his way, the more she can relax and feels safe to trust again and submit to that kind of leader. The more God works.
Be there to listen to her with an open kind ear like Christ leans down to hear us, don’t react to her emotions. They will calm down the more you practice kindness, caring and compassion for her and the fruits of the spirit.
Be more like Christ in how he is to you…this is how he said to love your wife…giving up yourself like Christ gave himself up for the church. Learn to let go of control, pride and humble yourself. Ask God for help.
You want her to feel safe and protected in all ways and that is what she was made to submit too. That is a leader like Christ. She feels safe with him and God put the desire in all women’s hearts to feel safe with a man seeking to be like him. We are not meant to be unequally yoked, so she will desire a man not perfect, but always learning and growing to be like Christ.
Remember not to bible bash her. Her relationship with Christ is between her and Christ alone, but instead lead her with gentleness like Christ does for her as an example. Don’t give up…just try it God’s way this time.
Strong men…God consistently shows me your struggles with women and submission. I also was given a gift to see patterns for kingdom growth to bring you more peace or clarity. Godly women are ready to submit, but he designed her to submit his way. Guys you can stay in your masculine and still love like Christ said, but one key is to do it with consistency and kindness. Harshness and control is of the world…not of God. Be a man of your word consistently – the best you can. No one is perfect ofc…forgive and forget…just do your best and God will do the rest…time is too short not to love his way. Don’t have regrets of tomorrow.
SINGLE: Please remember always if you are single to pray if this is the one for you first for confirmation.
MARRIED: For the men already married, please remember God has already given his leaders steps to follow and she will easily submit if these steps are followed out.
Remember this very important lesson: If you surrender it to God, he takes over. True strong leaders know who made them strong and they get their strength from God and his ways for every situation.
I pray this message gives you clarity and hope. May peace be in your marriage and relationships ❤︎